Now that we’ve discussed 8 Things Guys Secretly Love, we can’t forget the general theme of this blog – being chivalrous and romantic towards women. Striving to be better. Building healthier relationships.
That being said, what are some things that you may not realize make as big of an impact as they do?
Here are eight things that she secretly loves.
Good morning texts.
A good morning text first thing doesn’t just say “good morning” – it says “you’re the first person I thought of when I woke up today.”
For over a year I have sent one of these to my girlfriend literally every single day without missing one. Small romantic acts aren’t just for the “honeymoon phase” of your relationship. Consistency is key.
Hint: This includes goodnight texts, too.
Play with her hair if you’re laying together on the couch or in bed.
Just do it. Trust me.
When you remember small details about your conversations, whether it be her usual coffee order or when she’s going out for girls’ night, it will let her know that you really pay attention and hear her when she talks.
Plus, it will give you gift ideas for future occasions if you know what she loves.
Hint: Putting your phone down helps with this one.
Watch her favorite TV show or movie with her.
This will show her that you are willing to share in what she enjoys even if it’s not your first choice. Plus, you might find something new that you like without expecting it. Win/win.
Put your hand on the small of her back when introducing her to someone.
This is something I read a long time ago and it stuck with me for some reason. This is a passive sign of affection and isn’t inappropriate in a public setting, but it bonds the two of you together and helps her feel more comfortable.
When you keep your promises.
If you want her trust, you need to deserve it. A woman will instantly start losing faith in you the second you start to break your word, even if it’s something small like if you’re going to call her after work.
Integrity is hard to find these days, for both men and women. She won’t believe you if you tell her you’re different, you need to show her.
When you’re honest with her.
Of course, honesty has to be delivered with tact and kindness. Nobody wants to be hurt, but they don’t want to be lied to either. If you’re always honest, she will know that you’re trustworthy and that you respect her enough to be straightforward with her.
The last thing you want is her doubting everything you say because you once lied to her.
When you’re funny.
If you want to keep a woman’s attention, manners are important. Good looks are a bonus, but having humor is a must. Don’t take my word for it, Stanford University says women genetically prefer funny men.
Okay, you caught me, some of these aren’t a secret. But sometimes, we don’t think to talk about the really small things in a relationship and one partner may not realize what the other appreciates without them saying it out loud.
Want to do more than just these small things? Don’t forget the 8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back.
Written by James Michael Sama
Whether a guy is just starting to date a woman or is in a committed relationship with her, there are small things that she may do without thinking twice that guys secretly love.
While there are many, here are eight to start.
Laying your head on his chest.
When laying on the couch watching TV or laying in bed after a long day, it’s one of the best feelings when a woman lays her head down on your chest and puts her arm over you.
As men, we enjoy feeling as though we are being protective, and this signifies that she feels safe in our arms.
When you text him first.
There is a lot of pressure on guys to always initiate conversation. Sometimes he may not know if he’s being too pushy or texting too much – he might overthink it and not text you at all, which could leave you wondering.
Guys like to feel affection too, and if he’s really into you, he will be thinking about you. Sending him a quick text will brighten his day and spark a good conversation.
When you tell him you appreciate him.
Some people are more affectionate than others, and there’s nothing wrong with however you are. Just remember, if a man puts in a lot of effort into your relationship (as he should), he will never complain about hearing how much you appreciate him.
While he should be able to read your feelings from your actions, some guys need a more direct approach. It will make him feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Play with his hair while he’s driving.
I didn’t realize how great this one was until my girlfriend randomly did it one day. If you’re riding shotgun, reach over and lightly scratch the back of his head for awhile. Guaranteed to make him smile. (Don’t distract him too much though, he’s driving!)
Brag about him on Facebook.
Some girls go overboard with this. Way overboard. But, if your guy does something nice for you, it never hurts to talk about it or snap a photo of the impromptu dinner he had arranged when you got home from work.
It will show him that you appreciate him and are willing to share your appreciation and love for him with the world.
Women know better than anyone that really listening isn’t just a passive activity. It’s actually an action and it takes effort. Sometimes a guy has something important going on in his life, is working towards a goal, or is just stressed out about work.
When you really sit down, keep his eye contact and become genuinely engaged in a conversation about something important to him, it will let him know you care (even if he already does).
Text him when you’re out with your friends.
I’ve heard some really bad stories about guys who are insanely jealous or don’t “let” their girlfriend go out with friends, and especially with other guys. While I understand the apprehension, a man should be secure enough in his relationship (and trust his girlfriend enough) to not worry every second she is out without him.
If you have a man who is mature enough to tell you to go have a good time, text him every now and then during the course of the night just saying hello. It will make him smile and let him know that you’re still thinking about him when you’re out.
You don’t have to jump on him in public, but small things like taking his hand while you’re walking, hugging him in line at the grocery store, or hooking your arm into his as you walk into a party, will make him feel close to you and that you’re proud to be with him.
The little things go a long way.
Written by James Michael Sama
You know Patti Stanger is still single, right?
I’m here to tell you to ignore what everyone says and go ahead and bang him on the first date. How do I know? Well, nearly all my long-term relationships have stemmed from giving it up on date one – including my now husband.
From a girl who has slept with countless amounts of men, and a few ladies – I know from doing my research that it’s difficult to find a good lay nowadays. We are all into different things in bed, and if he has a really f*cked up fetish like symorophilia, mucophilia or plushophilia – trust me, you want to find this out straight away and get the f*ck out of there. And if you didn’t really have a good time on your date, but you find him really ridiculously hot, the sex might be amazing and boom: you’ve found yourself a new f*ck-buddy!
I don’t know about you, but when I’m interested in a man, my mind usually goes towards the issue of size: the size of his wallet and also the size of his penis. Sure, every guy probably thinks that he’s huge, but ladies – we know that the majority of men are average at best. So, before you invest any of your valuable spare time in this man, it’s advantageous for you to meet his penis – and the sooner, the better.
How disappointed would you be if you dated this man for weeks, invested weekends where you forwent hanging out in the Hamptons with your girlfriends getting white girl wasted, only to discover that your potential boyfriend has a weird, bendy dick, is an uncircumcised sharpei, or has a penis the size of a cocktail wiener? Take my advice and investigate down south sooner rather than later.
When there is so much sexual tension between the two of you, it tends to make things awkward. While courtship and dating are fun, a lot of the time dating is a bit of a drag. After all, isn’t all that dating just leading to the big finale of a climax? Having sex on the first date greatly reduces the anxiety that you both are experiencing and also eliminates all the trivial concerns that go with dating.
If you bang him on the first date, you don’t really need to worry so much about the impression you’re giving off on the second date – feel free to show up in yoga pants and a tank top because – guess what? He’s already seen you naked! The jig is up. And all those games that you play on the first few dates can also be eradicated – not sure about who is going to pay the check? Feel free to push that bill right over to him because, guess what? You sucked his dick last week. He can at least pay for dinner.
Investment of time
We are all busy and time-poor in today’s hectic world. Dating is a huge endeavor that not only sucks up your free time, but sometimes it could end up costing you money; money that you can be spending on those new shoes, liposuction or Botox.
Sex, on the other hand, is a good gauge of whether all this effort is worth it, so why go through countless dates only to find out that hey – maybe you don’t want his penis in you? Alternatively, if you bang him right away, you can make an informed decision about whether you want to invest anymore of your valuable time and money into this man.
Let’s face it – we are busy ladies. F*ck being coy – go out and get laid. If it feels right, do it.
Good things comes to those who wait? I say wait too long and no one gets to come.
The Trophy Wife
Photo Credit: The Paper Wall
If your career is important to you, you should probably avoid this diabolical situation at all costs, as it can get very messy, very quickly. Should you choose to embark on this path of interoffice sexual relations, here are some tips you should consider:
Don’t Tell Coworkers
Everyone loves a secret, but no one knows how to keep it. In this situation, the less people that know about your interoffice romance, the better. The last thing you want is for your philandering to fall victim to office gossip.
So, instead of offering up your relationship on a silver platter to the chatty Cathys of your cubicle, make sure you and your partner discuss logistics and really get a game plan together in order to avoid that painfully awkward and embarrassing conversation with your boss.
Do Not Date Your Superior
Dating the boss is never a good idea for many reasons. You never want to give another person control over you (unless, of course, it’s in the bedroom and you’re into that sort of thing).
This can jeopardize advancements in your career within your current group and within the company as a whole because you are mixing business with pleasure.
Even if it’s public knowledge that you are involved with one another, you then risk the notion that you may be receiving special treatment due to your situation.
Boredom Sets In
If you’re seeing someone every single day of the week AND spending your weekends together, you definitely run the risk of becoming bored with the relationship.
Dating outside your work circle allows open communication about your day-to-day, maybe some funny stories about coworkers and that promotion you have been inquiring about; dating within your work circle does not.
A coworker is there experiencing it all with you. Plus, you have to be careful about what you blab; if you ask me, that’s a lot of effort especially when wanting to vent to your partner without reservation.
The Jealousy Factor
Your partner hires a pretty young thing and now all you can think about is their sexual tension and bonding over late night meetings and PowerPoint presentations while you’re not around. That will not only affect your performance, but it can cause tension between you and your other half.
The Dreaded Break-Up
So you call it quits. Good luck playing dodge ball in the halls, pretending not to see each other in plain sight and if you do, mastering the art the “I didn’t even see you there” look. This gets awkward for not only the two of you, but also for everyone around you.
It forces coworkers to choose sides, you lose credibility with others depending on what side of the story is being telephoned around the cubicles, and if it gets to be too much, you run the risk of getting fired.
Getting ready in the morning becomes a challenge, needing to look amazing to make your ex feel awful for dumping you, and God forbid you start dating someone new and your ex finds out — now that’s an awkward weekly team meeting.
So the next time you spot someone in the office lookin’ good…look the other way. Expand your social dating circle outside the elevator banks or face any and all of the hypothetical situations above.
You’ve been warned!
Photo Credit: USA Networks/Suits
- By TJJ Office Mgr
- Published 15-Nov-13
Well at that point, you were probably too blinded by your love, that there was only one thing to do – break the odds and become that couple that actually made it through the long-distance relationship.
Live thousands of miles away from each other and still have that same burning chemistry you had when you lived in the same town.
Long-distance relationships require effort, dedication and endurance – nothing for the faint hearted. Now I’m not saying it´s impossible, if you’re actually both strong enough and have the same will of fighting for it, it can work.
But you see, there are very few people out there who are willing to go through that mental, and even physical pain of long-distance relationships. I decided to break the whole thing down for you. Here are six reasons why you shouldn’t commit to a long distance relationship and how it affects the outcome of your future.
Time is the longest distance between two lovers
First things first. You won’t feel the distance at first. Everything is going to feel like you have the world on a string. But as communication and arguments become a frequent problem, you’ll feel the detachment – it won’t be the same anymore. And as time passes by, month after month, the distance between you guys is going to seem much further.
Now yes, some people may say that distance benefits both of you and makes your relationship stronger, but it comes to a point where the distance and time difference become destructive. Distance doesn’t make your heart grow fonder; it makes you forget about your partner.
You’re not having relationship problems, you’re having distance problems
Believe it or not, in long-distance relationships most problems occur due to distance and not actual relationship problems. You were 15 minutes late for your Skype date, you’re spending way more time with your friends, you forgot to send the regular “good morning” message – I can go on forever.
You’re probably going to notice how ridiculous your arguments are going to turn out to be. Now from experience, these arguments are long (they can go on for hours), tiring and mentally challenging. Imagine arguing over why you were 15 minutes late for your Skype “date” for two hours – then you’ll know what I mean.
So instead of working on that essay that’s due tomorrow, you’re having a never-ending argument, that’s stalling you from doing what you have to do, the essential requirements that establish your path to success. So a piece of advice: Hang up.
When you finally see your partner, it’s only for a limited time
Happily enough, you will both find a time where your schedules are matching and you are able to meet up. Even though these times are amazing, they won’t last that long. You’ll probably spend most of the time having sex, making up for all the lost times. But again, it won’t last forever.
Soon enough you’re heading separate ways not knowing when you’re going to see each other again. To put it frankly, it sucks. It’s going to turn, from wanting to see your partner because of the longing to not wanting to see them because of the consequential pain of saying goodbye again. Believe it or not, that longing or those constant daydreams will divert you from your goals and result in consequential academic and professional breakdowns.
Snuggling, cuddling or whatever you want to call it, is definitely something you’re going to miss. Having his big arms wrapped around you or spooning her until she falls asleep – we can all admit it, we love it! But unfortunately, you won’t be doing much of that. Instead you’re going to be lying in bed wishing he was there to hold you or daydreaming about her hugging you again.
We all are addicted to that physical intimacy, and not having it is just not going to cut it. So yet again, that longing desire of intimacy will distract you from what’s important, and may lead to unfaithfulness ……that’s why a lot of people cheat during long-distance relationships. So cut the cord and find someone else to snuggle.
Temptations are everywhere! Whether it’s that girl you kind of have a spark with or that crazy party that had more half-naked guys than Baywatch. There are constant temptations that you have to fight against in order to resist. You see, this is one of the main reasons why long-distance relationships don’t work.
Cheating is way too easy. So save yourself the heartbreak and cut loose. Because if your sweetheart lived right next door or down the street, those constant temptations would disappear, and that mental struggle could be focused on that economics concept you couldn’t wrap your head around.
It’s exactly what it sounds like. If you’re living apart from each other, you can’t really obtain the same attention as when you were together. But again, you don’t want to seem desperate for his or her attention. So there is only one way to go. He messes with you by not answering your text message just to make you miss him. And of course this escalates, and you don’t talk to each other for days, to see who folds first and reaches out.
Cut the crap and save yourself the bullshit. The partner that has the heart to play around with your emotions is not worth it. Mind games really mess with your head and can even affect your self-esteem. Those constant paranoia questions that run through your mind “What if he’s with another girl?” “What if she doesn’t love me anymore?” what if, what if, what if.
Those little what ifs can lead to major heartbreak. I don’t think I have to explain the potential of these games and dark emotions to wreck your future. So unless you want to end up like the rest of the average 99 percent, cut loose and spend all that energy on what’s going to make you stand out on that job application.
So let’s be clear here, I’m not saying you should stop dating the love of your life because of the distance. Being in love is an amazing feeling, and hats off to whoever is fighting through it right now. However, there are many factors you have to consider before jumping into a long-distance relationship.
While this type of relationship may seem great in the beginning – the longer you endure it, the more you realize the taxing effect this has on the mind and the body. Sometimes you just have to cut loose. Sometimes we must let go of the life we have planned, to accept the one that is waiting for us.
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Gulf Elite Magazine
TJJ has gotten a number of phone calls and e-mails for information on Trinidad and Tobago Carnival 2011. This blog post should really be called "How to navigate Trinidad Carnival 2011", but we cannot possibly cover it all in one blog note. So let's just include the following for starters...
Here are the TOP 5 (download the full list to see all 70 events) most anticipated T&T Carnival Experiences for 2011 based on our 2010 TJJ SCORES.
|Girl Power||Jenny's Car Park||ISLANDpeople||
|National Panorama Semi-Finals||Queen's Park Savannah. Port-of-Spain||National Carnival Commission||
|Eclipze All Inclusive||The North Deck||Blitz LLC||
|D'Original Diamond Vale Breakfast Party||Diamond Vale||Vale Vibe||
|Beach House Carnival||Brechin Castle Golf Course. Couva||21 Promotions||
Here is the full list for download (right click .. Save As).
HOW LONG SHOULD I GO FOR? AND WHEN IS THE BEST TIME TO GO?
Christmas time is good, January and February is better but March 1st to March 9th will be the BEST! You may have higher priced tickets and multi-stop journey at this time, but it is 100% worth it. Monday 7th and Tue 8th will be the pinnacle (Road March) so go for last least 3 days if your vacation calendar permits. Hey if I was paying that much money I will be there for the entire week!
ACCOMMODATIONS: WHERE SHOULD I STAY?
Port-of-Spain (capital) and the environs is best place to be. I would suggest many hotels near St. James, Belmont or Maraval. I have a link that has a number of hotels that can help. Our Blog will help those who want to go on the cheap.
Trinidad can be a tough place to drive especially if you are not accustomed to narrow crowded roads. Drivers tend to obey the law of instinct as opposed to written rules. Getting a local guide cannot be a bad idea if this is going to be a first time trip for you. You can write to us or better yet we discuss on our Facebook wall where you can find your new friends that will keep you safe and informed.
WHAT MUST I DO WHEN I GET THERE?
Well we have created our definitive guide on a page for you to print out or share with your friends. Download It now. We would love feedback so we can improve the quality of the information. Please stay tuned to our Trinidad and Tobago Events calendar for the most up to date information. Of course, our T&T Carnival 2011 Schedule will be your best friend (updated regularly).
You should already have your ticket already in hand as they still going for $265.00 USD on average from the NE. Get your place to rest and car to get you to the fetes because you done know there is no train to move your around! ;-)
TJJ TV - Miami Carnival 2008 "On D Road Memories"
Now, lewwe talk parties. If you have not seen the listing take a peak first.
Tues/Wed? Yuh early!!
Options are South Beach (enjoy de water) or under populated soca parties at odd night clubs. I know we usually say this Carnival is Thurs night to Sunday night at a minimum. But Wed night is building up nicely. Besides, it never hurt to go and set up camp early and get some R&R before the action takes off.
Thur? For those who landing early-ish...
Socavivor - Event 2 - Naughty or Nice. Girl Power Miami 2009. TRIBE Ignite - Miami. Everything you expect from TRIBE. I hear you must hit up annual Miami Rise Meets Shine NY to keep the vibe rolling straight til like 12pm on Friday.
Friday? Some of the biggies include:
Scruples Free Drinks Block-O 2009 is a staple event, Black and White, Safari consistent and now joining the Friday night madness is Super F.R.I.E.N.D.S 'Miami Carnival 2009 Episode' ... and that is only half the big guns. Let's not forget the Socavivor series - Event 4 - Int'l Flag Night and Soca Gold Miami 2009. And it ent done yet... MIAMI VICE ft Bunji, Fay-Ann, Beenie Man and more in the mix too! What is your dance for Friday night?
Saturday? Is All Inclusive day...
Which is your party of choice? There was a lot mixed reviews last year for this evening, so instead of One (1) UWI All Inclusive fetes ... now we have TWO (2)!! For massive crowd and live performances, there's the Re-Birth of D Convention Center Fete ... "Socafest 2k9". Also DV8 Miami coming back to defend again and the list goes on. And if you didn't hear as yet, Vale Vibe is making it's debut with D'Original Diamond Vale Breakfast Party Miami.
Sunday? is Unity for the first time in years...
We will all be getting what we asked for Broward and Miami are now one. These changes going to make Miami Carnival 2009 one to remember for all time. If we had 25 thousand in Broward and 25 thousand in Miami. I doh even want to imagine the craziness this year...
Disclaimer: Professional and experienced TJJ Fet-a-lot-athon® Party Gurus have rigorously tested these Carnival grounds and are providing said recommendations based on the fundamentals that the audience is a healthy rum drinking islander. If while performing any of these actions you begin to feel any dizziness, fatigue or pain please stop and consult your physician immediately.
Please note that these events are premium carnival events (i.e. the best of the best). TJJ attended these events and rated them in our report. If an event is not listed in this report it's because we did not attend.
|Cohobblopot 2009 (Lara Party Stand)||
|Crack of Dawn Breakfast Party||
|Frazzled Mug Fete||
|Glow Barbados 2009||
|Baje Jouvert 2009||
|Bathsheba Experience All Inclusive||
|Wadadah Morning Brek Out||
|Bliss All Inclusive||
|Booze Cruise 2009||
The details behind this report card is posted in each gallery (click on event name).
View our entire Crop Over 2009 Coverage @ http://www.trinijunglejuice.com/cropover_2009.html
We encourage you to add your comments (for both individual events and overall report) to make mention of your favorite event this Crop Over 2009 season.
Son of the Caribbean Soil
Original Lime Flavor
- By Stephen aka Original Lime Flavour
- Published 17-Jul-09
Here is my Top 3 for BARBADOS
1. Booze Cruise
2. Lara All Inclusive
3. In a Mas band, on the road for Crop Over (Kadooment Day)
new comer for 2009, worth a try
The Bathsheba Experience 'The Ultimate All Inclusive Event'
Here are some reviews/photos from past Crop Over seasons to bear testament...
Son of the Caribbean Soil,
Original Lime Flavor
We hearing complaints about top shelf drink vs Premium drinks and what we expect to pay for an all inclusive that makes it good value. eg I think DV8 priced at $55 was good value but have heard others points of view.
Does your perception change depending on where you’re located (e.g. $5 for a pint of beer in NYC might be considered a steal, but in other areas it could be viewed as outrageous)? Tell us what you think.
Are we just plain old abusing the word "Premium" in our all-inclusive parties?